Unfortunately, confusion caused the roses to be misplaced during the ceremony, so instead of handing those out I simple took flowers from the closest vases (we had random vases all over) and gave those out instead.
Sadly, the other problem with being able to do this was that one person was missing. My mom's mom, Grandma Hawks. So to be able to give her a flower too, I set up a table at the ceremony site and placed her picture, a candle and an owl figurine on it. The owl was part of an extensive collection of owls that she had collected during her life. I will have a HUGE post about owls soon!!! Grandma Hawks died in January of 1986 and I was born 11 months after. I never met her but feel like I know her so well. I know the stories and have seen her pictures but more importantly I feel the love that my family has for her everyday. She was an awesome lady and I have been told a few times that I have a lot in common with her.
As the time came to pass out the flowers I swiftly overcame the problem of the misplaced roses and gathered the flowers off the wall so that no one was the wiser. I made the rounds to my mom and Grandma Nelson then to Micah's mom Jodi and his two grandmothers before I walked over to Grandma Hawk's table. I had placed a kiss on each of the other's cheeks so as I put the flower of Grandma Hawk's on the table I picked up her picture and gave her her kiss. I believe this was the only time I cried during my wedding. In that moment I knew she was watching from Heaven and just as proud as the rest of the ladies sitting with their flowers.
"Unable are the loved to die. For love is immortality." ~Emily Dickinson
That quote was on the back of our wedding programs along with a paragraph explaining the remembrance table as I have above.
NORMA JEAN HAWKS- The best lady I never knew...
Love you grandma.
2 comments:
that was the only time i cried too. :) love you lady.
Trin....I held it together the whole day for you. But I had to wipe away the tears when you gave your Grandma Hawks her flower, it made me think about my wedding and not have my Dad or both my Grandma's there with me. I know they would have been so proud! And I know your Grandma Hawks is smiling down on you! Your amazing and I'm so blessed to have you as my BEST FRIEND!!!! Love You! BURT!!!!
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